We are all chasing something. I think this is an undeniable truth. The fulfilling life is when we are able to recognize the one thing we are chasing to be purposeful; to have meaning; a motive. The journey one takes seeking to obtain that thing we long for can be exciting. That job, that relationship, moving to this neighborhood, being selected for the team. The list goes on. So, when you fall short the pain one feels is real. I’ve felt that pain in the last week. Still, nothing is wasted.
A possible move for me and my family was on the horizon recently. What started with a simple trip, quickly became an opportunity to draw an action plan and get my mind thinking the change was happening. When the reality of that change evaporated I was relieved to know that God had a better plan. But there was still a sense of the what if. Why can’t I have what I want? Why do I have to stay here? Why does he/her get to move? All these questions came to my mind in flurry of emotions that so many times are hard to explain.
“Nothing is Wasted” was a song I heard recently that allowed me to place so much perspective to what life has been for me in the last 3 months. I’ve learned much; grown as a husband, a father and a son of God. It also reminded me of the motive behind my decisions and the ways that my life can be impactful for others. Simply put, this journey to what I didn’t get was a lesson of understanding myself and reminded me of my motive.
Have you ever felt the same? What did you learn?
There is only one you
This simple truth can sometimes be forgotten. It has be repeated often as a way to encourage others in their walk through life, but more times than not it carries a meaning of differentiation reflected on the personality and characteristics of others. It’s almost as if we use it solely to separate others from us. I think it’s time to shift the paradigm. This statement should be the foundation that separate us from others and not the other way around.
Being the driving force allows you to recognize your own abilities, your gifts, your skills, the blessings you’ve been given. When you take control of the wheel it’s much easier to be all you were made to be. Yes, examples, role models, mentors should all be part of the fabric of our lives. As Proverbs 27:17 illustrates, “as iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another”, encouraging and motivating us to grow in our lives. Others don’t define us but instead help us to find ourselves. Like following a map, others can symbolize the mile markers that help us know we are close, but were not there yet.
I see this reality playing out in my role as a husband, a father, a son, a brother and a friend. I see many of my fathers traits reflected in my actions. I also find myself emulating some of the people who have had a big impact of me. But at the end of each day, I also recognize I’m creating a new path. Setting a new reality for others around me. Being a mile marker for them and helping them in their journey. So it’s important I continue mine. Blazing a new trail. Being me!