You are beautiful

You are Beautiful

One of the most important catalysts to living a life fully motivated is to love ourselves. Being comfortable in your own skin is much more than just self-confidence, it’s self-assurance that we are already on the right track to achieve all that we were made for. Living motivated to being all we want to be comes from a sincere sense of knowing we are beautifully made, inside and out. When we find that truth we are free to move ahead in our journey.

In modern society the external plays a big part in attributing favor to achievement. Almost as if one needs to look a certain way to be all they are aiming to be. It’s that way from early childhood until our hair turns grey… or falls off. There is this appearance of success, this look of confidence, this way one must be and react. It is true for both men and women.

I too have been sucked into this way of thinking. But there is something about having children that allows for some clearer understanding of reality. We all nod to agree that the inside is more important than the outside, but it is only when you pour out your life for another that you understand that the external is only subjective. That true beauty is inside.

Having a little girl makes this concept come to life like nothing before. In a world that materializes women to look a specific way, I want to encourage my little girl to know that she is beautiful beyond her looks. Inside lies her strength. And inside, her beauty will shine brighter to give her the comfort and confidence to be who she was meant to be.

I saw this ad for Dove recently and found it compelling enough to share. The reality is that we are all too hard on ourselves. I’ve seen it with myself and I’ve seen it with my family and friends. When we find peace in our own skin we accept our inner beauty and are free to live life fully motivated. That is what I want for my little girl.

Serving your family is not about you!

Serving my family

The title to this post sounds so simple and easy to understand. Applying it? That is a whole different story. Over the last two years I’ve been reminded of this concept often. With my work responsibilities increasing and more travel planned every two weeks, serving my family gained a bigger impact.

I think for men particularly, we tend to go for the big movements. Do something so big that the person that is most special to you will notice for years to come. Quite honestly, that is a selfish approach to serving them; “Let me do something big so I can be off the hook for the next three months.” You know what I’m talking about, right? I was once like that to.

The last two years reminded me that the small acts have the biggest impact. I’m not afraid to share these: cleaning the dishes, mopping the floor, ironing the clothes… none of these are on my list of favorite things to do. But I do them because it serves my family. And this is not about me but about the people that I love.

How do you serve your family? What are the small acts you will do today?

As part of the vision for 2motive8, be on the lookout for more posts with the category #MotivateFamily.

How real change happens

Change

So I was on the road again this week and spent some time reviewing all that I’ve accomplish in my recent business trips. This week’s trip included meetings, project reviews and additional channel management ideas that will help our business grow. I spend much time on the strategy side, but I have to say, my biggest a-ha moments come when I’m connected with the people side of the business: the folks that are actually doing the selling.

I love to coach and inspire people to reach their full potential. This approach is evident in my sales training motivational efforts. My biggest advantage is that I understand life to be intertwined between work and home; for one can only achieve true success and joy when you live life as you are. This is why my message is never just about work. The process of achieving all you can be is not just an exercise to grow in knowledge but it must also include the spiritual and emotional components. These are evident at home, with family, at church, in your community. You have one life. Everything in you is connected and reflected in your multiple interactions.

With work, as with life in general, it’s easier said than done and I know that for every five employees I spend time with, there is always one that is more challenging than others. But that is why I try to really know each employee on a personal level. No, I don’t do it for the sake of knowing exactly what to bribe them with. On a deep level one cannot understand why someone reacts a specific way unless you know what is going inside; behind the mask that many of us put on day in and day out. What I do is connect with the real person and invite them to come out to play, have fun and be successful.

So you have to start with the core; the inside of a person; their belief system. When you understand why someone’s heart beats so strong (or so week) for something can you actually understand the reason for their actions. This model can be applied to any part of your life but I have seen it clearly in the workplace.

I will share the example from my work and unveil a little more of what I do. The majority of the sales channels I’m involved with are Contact Center, better know as Call Centers (mainly taking inbound calls). The majority of people think of this line of work as people that spend the whole day taking phone calls. I was one of those and I can’t tell you how incomplete that simple description can be. The reality is that it takes a special person to listen to customers who are most of the time frustrated and, in my industry, unaware of the basic information when calling. It takes a special skill to hear mixed emotions channelled through a phone line, while still keeping your cool and providing a great experience for the customer. So the role of a Customer Service Agent is more than just answering phone calls. I like to view these employees as Solutions providers.

The problem is that these same employees have fallen in this stereotypical trap; they have believed this incomplete view of what they do as the full definition of their work. Unfortunately for some it goes deeper. Some find that view as their full purpose. It can be a joy killer. So my first step is understand what is in their hearts and minds so I can grasp the reason for their performance. My approach requires them to think differently of themselves. To break the walls of their box and make them see they are free to be whoever they want to be in their life; at home and at work; everywhere. Real change happens when your paradigm shifts. Steven Convey’s 7 Habits of Highly Effective People was anchored first on the need to shift the way you think.

When your belief is aligned with the power you have to achieve your goals, progress happens. Corrective action happens. Doing the right things often turns into habits, which leads to change.

Aligning your beliefs accurately, helps you take the correct actions that create the habits you need to for change to happen.

The Power of your Words

It’s Sunday and even though I normally don’t post much on this weekday, occasionally, I will share thoughts related to my christian walk. My desire to motivate, empower and encourage others is originated from the love I received from God, so this is part of who I am.

In my previous post I highlighted how important it is to verbalize what others do for you. Words have the power to build or break something. I think that is why I love Hawk Nelson’s song “Words”. I’m reminded of the power I have when I hear this song. When I love with my words I glorify God. And that is one of the sweetest feeling to have in this life.

I hope you enjoy it!

What’s in a name

I love this quote from Shakespeare’s tale of Romeo and Juliet:

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet.”

Now, in this famous story of love the meaning of the name is defined as senseless because both lover’s families are at war. But the reality of pride for one’s name is something truly empowering and remarkable. I’ve recognized this meaning in my own life and have identified it as one of the 8 steps of living life motivated. Our name is a constant reminder of our experiences and our passions.

More than my family’s name, I’ve found pride in my first name – David. I once heard someone say that your first name is the most beautiful word one can hear. I think this is especially true for me because my first name is normally pronounced in the English form. I normally make sure other people understand and use it correctly; pronounced Daveed. I’ve found it powerful to have others recognize the correct way to call me. To recognize who I am.

I think in a similar way a family’s name also carries much meaning and importance. This fact only struck me when I got married and then again when my children were born. I had a good relationship with my parents, but the meaning of our family’s name was not passed down with the sense of a gift. Looking back at the times I spent listening to the stories that intertwined with my family tree, these tales paint the adventure written in my family’s name. I want to pass that down to my children; as a gift. That our family’s name, our family’s adventure, moved beyond the ocean line with God in the center of it all.

Your name may not define you but it has meaning. Even more than my family’s name, my name reminds me of the unique path I’ve taken in my life. In leaving my country, embracing a new culture and starting my family. It also reminds me of what motivates me in life.

Hi my name is David, pronounced Daveed. Christ-follower, committed husband, engaged father, proud Portuguese, new American, intended to motivate, passionate about communications, living life to the fullest.

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What’s your name?